So I joined Mojo very recently because of my struggle with sexual performance and anxiety. This girl that i’ve been talking to is supposed to come over in 2 days and my anxiety has been at an all time high because I havent had a sexual encounter with anyone for a year. And the last time I did, I got so anxious and nervous I couldn’t keep it up.
I know this is a process but anyone out there got any tips on how to face this type of situation? I really want my night with her to go well but I know i’m going to be back in the same loophole where my anxiety just keeps building up till i cant keep it up anymore.
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Hey man, the best thing you can do is do some meditations I think, they should be in the resources page. As for when this girl comes over, if you haven’t already and you feel comfortable doing so, opening up to her about your struggles is a game changer. I opened up to my partner about my struggles and they’ve only been supportive the entire journey.
Also, for the night itself, focus on breathing, and you can use the 5 senses tool to break away from thinking about what’s going on down there, if nothing works and you’re still feeling anxious, please remember that you enjoy yourself sexually in many ways, not just with your dick. Try experimenting with other options.
Final piece of advice, don’t beat yourself up if it doesn’t happen, be vigilant with the mojo exercises, and keep being positive, there are always more chances. Good luck!
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That response really helped. Thank you. I definitely will open up about my struggles to her now that you mentioned it because I feel like that would talk a lot of the weight off of my shoulders. I’ll have to trust the process on here and just stay positive!
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Can I also suggest something. For women sex
Is emotional experience. Hence focus on the foreplay , use words of affirmation and she will be really hot and relaxT. his will help you as well good luck bro
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I was facing the same situation about a month ago. I was so nervous the whole day, I did the breaking the bias exercises and 2:1 breathing and box breaths. I think they helped. The meditations help too especially a couple days out (tackling performance anxiety). Once she’s there just be easy and chill and slow. In my situation, I eventually calmed down after doing the exercises in the day and we had great sex and it was a weight off me 
But if it doesn’t work keep at it. My first encounter with this same girl hadn’t gone as well.
Don’t rush into anything.
Enjoy the experience and time being with her.
Go out to dinner or a movie or whatever is fun and chill.
Not making sex the focus of your date will decrease your anxiety.
The intimacy will come when you are comfortable and you will be more confident and less likely to have ED issues.
She will most likely appreciate this approach anyway!