Sex was great! Then I got in my own head

When my gf and I first met. Sex was fantastic. I performed well and for long periods of time. When she started making requests of things for me to try, I made an effort to meet her needs and started getting in my head about her pleasure. She has her own body issues to work on and I’ve been trying to support her through it.

It all came crashing down when I weened off of Anti-Anxiety meds. The pill that numbed my erections is gone and now my genitals are super sensitive. Not only am I having trouble getting my girlfriend to orgasm, but I’m beating myself up for pre-mature ejactulation every time we have sex.

I get in my head and I feel out of control. I’m feeling a lot of anxiety around sex lately. It used to be so effortless. Now I’m stuck in a loop and can’t seem to correct it. My girlfriend is extremely patient and understanding, but I feel like I’m on some invisible countdown to figure this out before she gets fed up and leaves me.

(Going back on my meds is not an option for me right now. I want to learn how to regulate my emotions without needing a pill. I think this app will help me control my body vs relying on medication to do the work for me.)

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You might try some pelvic floor exercises. Kegels and whatnot.