Cant help but feel like a disappointment

🍆 Erection issues
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Literally a couple months ago everything was fine. I wasn’t lasting a long time every time or anything but generally I was good and I was gonna get hard and stay hard for damn sure.

My girlfriend started taking ssri’s and shes been frustrated that they’ve been keeping her from cumming, but she still wants sex. I want her to keep taking something thats helpful for her and in no way do I prioritize being horny over her mental health, but she does WANT the sex and I haven’t been delivering recently because of my own stupid anxieties.

She says my penis still feels good but something about knowing that I can’t make her cum is just eating its way into my brain. Recently I’ve been getting soft shortly after initiating sex or cumming quickly because im stressed and focused on it because I just have it in my head that I know there will be disappointment. Obviously that means shes not getting as much of the sex she wants and IS now disappointed. Self fulfilling prophecy and I can’t get it to stop spiraling and feeding itself. Hopefully this app will help.

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Hey man! Running into something similar at the moment. Here’s what’s helping me in case it helps you:

  1. I am not my thoughts. Thoughts are just thoughts. I try to not give them energy and attention (easier said than done but meditating, exercising, and this app seem to be helping)

  2. Discuss it with my gf and explain what I’m going through. In my case she’s super supportive and understanding about it which makes me feel safe and less anxious.

  3. This is temporary! We are going through a phase and that’s it. Let’s use the opportunity to better know ourselves and our bodies. We will get hard again and life will go back to normal.

Sending you a big anonymous hug mate :slight_smile:

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