So, Iāve frequently used ALOT of types of pornography. Video, comic, ai. And the type and category got more and more intense dor a long time. I get hard every time. But itās been really hurting me.
Iām 21, relatively ok health (current improving) and Iāve wanted to stop it all, but when I do..I get almost panic attacks that it wonāt get hard to any imaginary thought..regardless of how I frame the mental image.
Its riddled me with sexual performance anxiety. And Iāve never been I a relationship!, let alone sexā¦
Iām typing this at the end of my first dayā¦Iām craving dopamine and to prove that it can still get hard in my headā¦but it..just wonāt go up..its..killing me.
Iām doing kegals, Iām taking sexaul desire natural supplements. But Iām stressed to all hell..Iām currently unwillingly unemployed.. and spend long moments in my day, day dreaming about domestic blissful moments I want with someone..alotā¦
ā¦this seems like a dump but I just need to talkā¦family and friends are not really around for it..and doctor keeps telling me it allll mental and shooing me out the doorā¦sorry if..this was a waste to read
Dude, I have a few years on you but some of this echoes. There was a point I couldnāt get hard, at all, either solo or with a partner.
I got my test checked because I felt it could be low, it wasnāt that.
I got ED meds, but they were hit and miss
I tried tongkat, adhwagandaā¦
Skip forward a few years of grief over this and Iām starting to believe it is in my head. The way I framed sexuality activity was like a mission, I have to do this, I have get hereā¦ But all that was doing was piling pressure onto an already fractured sexual identity
So more recently Iāve been better, bring more forgiving, less demandingā¦ Even if it doesnāt go. āall the wayā all the time itās ok.
What Iād suggest is to try and follow the feeling of your body responding to contact rather than writing about the end goal of that contract. If that makes sense.
The more in your own head about this you are the more difficult it gets. Itās probably not gone though, Iād guess youāve, like me, buried it in stress and expectation.
Iāve gone from zero to capable of completion after unpacking all my mental b.s over the issue. Still have some reliability issues but itās better than it was by a long way. Your not irredeemable.
Sorry, that got a bit long, hope it helps, be kind to yourself
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Sounds fukt but just relax. Itās literally in your head. Keep up here. Read all the topics and responses. Good stuff here. Youāre bored and looking for a distraction /dopamine hit. Go for a walk, run, ride, anything physical. Also engage your mind. Read, figure a problem out (not this one) plan something. Anything to steer your mind off this topic. Go to the explore tab and find the meditations. They help. Silly as it soundsā¦.. they help. And the touch sensation techniques too!!
Good luck. 
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Thanks so much, Iāve been trying my best to be the best me!, it just..hits HARD at night, the darkness feels like it holds my mind. Like I want domestic bliss soo much, but taking slowly steps feels like an eternity when my mind has 7 different things forcefeeding it at every moment XD. Iāll definitely try the explore tab, itās just being unemployed at the moment means I canāt get the premium app
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