Hi..
So I’ve been using the app a while, it’s helped..in a way. I’m 21, never been with a woman…ever
I’m unsure what to do now, I’ve tried everything and..keep failing.
I’ve given up porn, hentai, comics, ai. Each a crippling addiction. But this sight has audio erotica…and I’m scared I’m using that as a crutch now.. like..I get really scared I can’t get hard, so I listen to that..it works🎉…then “I feel like a failure for masturbating..and I feel even more scares that it required this to get hard…and oh god what if I let her down..wait..who’s her?..I’m alone”
I’m under so much stress but I’ve been under stress like this before..and was still fine. It’s killing me..my life’s been nothing but dragging my own near dead body across broken glass…this was something I enjoyed alot..and I ruined it, flooding myself with performance anxiety, and mental sex issues. All I want is to have a parter who not only loves me..but is satisfied with me, and kids.. if I’ve lost it…
(I know this isn’t under mental health but) I go to the gym, I eat quite healthy, I do kegals, I take these..weird natural desire supplements, I try breathing exercises, I’ve developed panic attacks from no work…
I’ve tried doctors, she tried to give me tablets for my mood that give ED… I tried mental health specialists, they didn’t care unless I was gonna..off myself…they tried to jump to help when I said yes tho..
I’m.. sorry of this sounds like rambling..I’m scared..and alone in alot of this…
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Hey man wassup
I just wanted to say you’re not alone. I’ve been dealing with PIED for almost 3 months. I’ve had women come and go. But one thing that helps me is that I know sex is becoming more and more open. And I’m assuming much like myself you would want a partner. U don’t have to stress it I feel our minds is working against us bc we want sex and relationships. But we young bro let’s fix all this before even thinking about that yk. But still meet with women don’t let your mind go straight to sex. That’s how you worry. Just vibe and if they turn you on it’ll happen. Porn made it to where we used to being horny or excited about it all the time. Now we scared and anxious when it comes to women. It sucks. But either way keep working Brody it’ll come. Just try not to stress so much. And don’t off yourself.
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Took me about 3 months myself to overcome my psychological ED as a virgin and previous porn user for about 12 years. The only thing that really helped was a cialis prescription and focusing on intimate activity with my current girlfriend. The cialis definitely helps just with added confidence and similar to you, I wasn’t someone who got aroused often throughout the day randomly. Touching, rubbing, and feeling with another person is a completely different type of arousal, which I now look forward to more than just visual and grip stimulus.
Just keep working on it and I’d recommend trying to find a partner, rather than just trying to get hard solo.
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Thanks man, it’s appreciated, you haven’t a clue how much what you wrote sunk in.
I’ve been wanting to get out, go placed and meet people.. women. And your right in the idea of taking it slow, I saw something that kinda resonated where I develop feeling really quick. So that sucks 
we got it man
So, you don’t even know whether you will have ED when you will be having your first time, but I understand that you are afraid. Don’t worry so much about masturbation, it is not bad for you but quite the contrary if you ask me. Getting rid of porn may help, but will probably not solve your issues. Continue masturbating but not excessively. Try to imagine a real life scenario and use masturbation as “practice” to prepare yourself mentally. Wax and wayne, soft penis pleasuring are nice exercises. Try to relax and don’t worry if you dont get hard right away.
Most importantly, try to get out there and meet girls as soon as possible. Most girls really dont care so much whether you perform in bed and you can satisfy them also without erection if you can’t get it up. Find a long term girlfriend and I guarantee you that eventually you will get it up and bang her. Stay strong!
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Thanks man…first of, awesome luck with the random name XD.
and yeah your right. It is alooot of me thinking..and overthinking. I wanna meet someone for sure, my lifestyle other then my walks and gym sessions is indoors as I’m a gamer by trait and profession been wanting to try a club or a bar, but worrier about those scenes being places people look for shorter fun then long term commitment. Gonna give it a shot tho!
Lol, forget clubs and bars. I am also a nerd, so for me, these places represent pure agony. This is 2025, so you should use an online dating app. Try ones that are aimed towards people who are looking for long-term relationships.