Today was another day with improved physical response, waking up with a raging boner and poking my girlfriends butt with it multiple times as she cuddled with me. It is another step forward in my libido’s rebirth after yesterday’s erotic dream.
I put these improvements down to a mix of things -
- mindfulness work
- reframing negative thoughts
- box breathing
- erotic stories and working on my imagination
- coming from a place less of my own performance and more of 'what do I want?
- BETTER SLEEP. our testosterone rejuvenates in the early hours of the morning and if we’re not sleeping, we’re not regulating our hormones correctly.
My girlfriend wants to wait before attempting full sex though, because she finds these half baked roots where I lose my erection to be deflating. Understandably so, but I am wondering if I should keep pushing with sex and trying to make it happen for as long as we can and seeing how we go. Has anyone got experience around abstaining from sex and whether it is good or bad for this recovery?
She also thinks I should completely abstain from masturbation but there is mixed information online and on Mojo as to whether that will be of benefit. But I am considering abstaining from ejaculation until me and her indulge in an activity. The research around semen retention, abstaining from masturbation, and the rest of this is quite mixed.
Moving forward I am looking to take antidepressants for my anxiety issues and cialis to help as far as my erectile dysfunction (which appears to be improving on its own).
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For antidepressants Wellbutrin helps with sex drive
Taking full penetrative sex off the table temporarily was actually suggested to me by a therapist once, though I didn’t follow through on the advice. The idea being that it takes the pressure off performing, and any upset she might feel when it goes limp, and instead it lets you have fun and be curious, discover you own and each other’s bodies together, and you get comfortable and confident. I can only imagine the excitement of walking that journey together, with all the fun involved on the way, and one day both knowing that you’re gonna be absolutely rock hard and ravish her after having waited and built that intimacy haha
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Yeah thats the plan I think
Marriage imploded a while back.
Met a wonderful woman and we decided to wait to have sex until she got to a Dr. and got tested for stds. (I had been tested already) During that time we still had a lot of fun! It was during those few weeks I had told her about my ED and with sex off the table, I was able to fully relax and just have fun!
It has been a few days without any action. Last night I was giving my girlfriend a back massage and she wasnt really getting in the mood. I turned to my side of the bed and let out a sigh that she overheard and she was all like “oh no do you feel a bit unloved and ignored?” I tried to pretend I didnt but she knew.
We kissed and she stroked me up and down and that led to a blow job when she became quite excited, after she said she felt really connected to me. I was hard during the blow job and there was no real issues with that, although not as hard as I’d been in the morning (and the thought is testosterone is higher in the morning than at night which may go some ways to explaining that).
Anyway this morning I woke up with a fairly weak erection. Im hesitent to push the issue too much and am going back to my meditation and breathing exercises. Sleep was a bit ‘off’ and I did cum the night before which may have had some effect on the morning wood.
Also in the back of my mind are relationship concerns. Sure she did end up giving me a blow job but she kinda brushed my initial advances off. I am concerned about if these issues are causing her to lose some attraction. It is also ‘that time of the moneth’ for her and she did have a chat about how we should hold off on full sex while I ‘do the work’ so maybe it’s all okay.
Anyway wanted to give an update on where things are at, some improvements and signs of life but obviously it’s still a bit up and down at this point.
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Does Wellbutrin mess up ur brain or make you feel weird. Cux I heard it can make you numb down there. But I hear it could help to. But I guess everyone is different right…