Anyone else find they struggle on some level with both PE and ED? I’m a week into this and am amazed at how much I relate to some of the material and I think my biggest problem is overthinking every aspect of a sexual encounter
I do experience PE quite frequently which means I have no confidence which leads me to losing wood. I also feel an instant negative energy as soon as something isn’t perfect
Sex for me is my brain going am I hard? Am I losing it? Will it come back? Am I about to come? Can I do this?
These thoughts just spiral and spiral until I end up feeling like I can never have a normal sex life
After just a week I feel I’ve identified a lot of my issues, I just hope I can solve them
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Bro I’m the exact same! The spiral of questioning removes all the joy from something that should be fun and relaxing! I’m a week in as well and staying positive that we will overcome this!
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You nailed it, I am start thinking exactly the same things. I am just new to this site but I believe It is giving me some serious hope of getting back to where I was before this started
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What is PE
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Premature ejaculation
Did you always have these issues or did something trigger them. I used to never think about sex and it always went off with out a hitch. But one day about a year ago I got in my head for some reason an couldn’t get hard. And it’s been a. Roller coaster ever since . I know my issues are all in my head and also irrational. Do you guys feel like your own brain is sabot. You
You got this man! Control your thoughts and emotions, don’t let yourself spiral! Trust yourself!
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Sharing a win! I had sex yesterday and whilst I can’t say exactly how long it lasted (didn’t time it lol) it wasn’t ages but it was better than I have had for ages and I felt more control than I have for years. I was in the moment and no negative thoughts took over. This is really helping keep going guys - progress is there!
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Feel exactly the same overthink everything, thats why i am here trying to change things
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I’ve never had PE - although I (very) occasionally misjudge it. ED crept up on me a few years ago. But yes, I identify very closely with your description of overthinking it.
We have stumbled across a way of distracting me, and it has proved an effective, but I’m sure temporary, relief from ED.