This is my first day on this app. I’ve found myself avoiding sex a lot. On multiple occasions I’ve been with a girl and opted just to give head and tell her not to worry about me because I’m worried that I won’t perform. If this be to go soft or the finish too quick. I’d rather just avoid letting the partner down. I’m currently seeing this girl and she’s great. Get along so well but her mates think that I don’t like her because I havnt taken it to the next step. I’d love to of course but I worry that something won’t go to plan and it will put her off. I guess it’s that inner critic thing. But I’m hoping to sort myself out and hopefully get things moving with this girl 
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My advice, talk to her about it before hand, if she knows about how you feel and explain some of the stuff you’ve learned on the app she will probably understand if not help. And if she doesn’t she’s not worth it pal 
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Thank you my brother. Appreciate it
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Aaahhhh I hear this and resonate so much with it, I’ve said in the past too, my pleasure comes from you being pleased but that’s just a cover for me to hide the fear of not performing and feeling like a failure
Recently I was with a girl and told her about my insecurities and just having that conversation with her, made it feel so much more okay because I knew she felt closer to me knowing what I was going through and said we would get through it together
Big big big boost in morale when your partner is running with you and not away from you
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