I recently started seeing an old girlfriend of mine. Previously, all of my sexual encounters have been short term, hot and heavy, one or two nights stands. I have been watching porn and masturbating with a death grip for the better part of seven years and never really thought I had an issue being hard. Recently, I started having a rough time cumming. The past three or four sexual encounters I haven’t came. This started to worry me. I really care about my ex whom I’m seeing now and I wasn’t able to stay hard for her or even get it up except for in the morning. Even so, when we did have sex, I didn’t cum. Which made her feel as if there was something wrong with her. Obviously not and I tried to explain it has nothing to do with her, but it’d be a lot easier to show her how I feel by cumming. I think it’s a combination of a few things one being I am without a doubt, a porn addict. My erections and orgasms are only to porn, but additionally, I think being with her and actually caring makes me hesitant to have sex with her because I’m used to it being a very short term, hot and heavy thing and not an intimate loving act. I’m very embarrassed by the fact that I couldn’t get hard when we did foreplay and the only reason we did have sex was the morning Wood, but I still didn’t cum and I’m worried that that will continue.
I’m new here and I’m excited to stimulate and rewire my brain and see sex in a different way
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Be careful diagnosing yourself as an “addict” to porn. Sure, it might be something you desire to cut back, but it sounds like you might be being overly critical of yourself. Just a thought to help you be kinder to yourself so that you don’t feel like you have some massive hill to climb.
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