New to the app. Very scared and embarrassed

🍆 Erection issues
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Hello everyone. This is the first step I’ve taken to break my addiction to porn and rewire my penis and brain to experience sex in a normal healthy way.

I have always watched porn. I’m 25 now and ever since I got a smartphone I’ve watched porn and masterbated. Over the last few years I’ve gotten into a habit of masterbating multiple times a day to porn, with a hard grip. I knew I had an issue but it wasn’t effecting my sex life persay.

I haven’t been in a long term relationship for some years but I have continued to have one night stands or short flings. What I started to notice was I wasn’t able to cum, or if I did, it was after multiple hours or hard aggressive sex. I started to worry as I would like to cum and show my partner that I enjoyed it. Oral and vaginal has lost its sensitivity, and really the only way I can cum is by an aggressive handjob from my parter.

Recently I started seeing an old gf of mine who I deeply care for. We just started to get intimate, but I wasn’t able to get an erection when we did foreplay, and after forcing one, I couldn’t keep it. We did have sex in the morning thanks to morning wood, but I didn’t cum and she felt as if it was her fault. Obviously this isn’t the case but it’s so embarrassing trying to explain why I didn’t cum. I want to cum for her and this is why I am here.

I just did the first session and I’m hopeful there will be a change but I am so in my head now.

If any of you have recommendations on how to quit porn and regain sexual satisfaction please reach out, I’m desperate for a change.

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Welcome here ! This is a great move to start mojo ! The desire to improve can be a real game changer ! Wishing you the best

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Hey : ) sorry to hear you’re struggling. One thing that helps me stay away from porn is learning about how terrible so much of mainstream porn is on an ethical level. There is loads of information out there on this, maybe try a documentary like Hot Girls Wanted for an entry-level insight. I actually also have personal experience of this, as I did some porn for a so-called ethical porn company for a little while. It was ostensibly run by women, empowering feminist vibe etc; then I found out later it was actually owned and run by a creepy 60sth-year-old dude who dated girls in their 20s. The whole world of porn is so often so bleak and rife with toxicity.

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Welcome. Forgive yourself. It is an important first step toward getting better and being in a healthy frame of mind. It starts as embarrassing but eventually you will see that ed is very common and something most men seem to have to overcome at some point. Many men of all ages have been affected and have successfully recovered from porn dependency. I’m one of them. Still in process but already feel just generally so much better and have made some other positive lifestlye changes as well (more exercise, less drinking, etc). The road to betterment isn’t instant but it is effective.

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