I am 23 and i have a huge issue i recently broke up and lately i cant achieve erections unless there is pornographic content(sex stories, porn or naked pics).There were times that i lost my erection during penetration with my ex and i dont know how to deal with all of this. Anyone has faced this in the past???
I have been having the same thing happen. I take a while to get and erection and keep it with my partner or even alone unless I am watching porn, if I am it’s no problem at all for getting it up or staying there. I also seem to have some sort of subconscious anxiety towards sex that I have zero clue why. I just know I watched porn heavily for about 7 years straight and only recently have stopped. I’m unsure as to why this is the case for me as my pertner is the first actual relationship I’ve ever had that has been sexual. I love her to death and it is super painful for me to be where I am. I’m just unsure what to do as with porn I’m 110% a d without it I’m 0%. Just confused and annoyed. Anyone have “tips”?
Have edged to porn in the past for hours per session as part of regular self pleasure routine, and like you recently stopped and am now finding erections difficult with a partner and alone without porn. It feels like the “flatline” situation that nofap people describe, where brain may have become over-dependent on porn for arousal and now needs to be rewired to be more sensitive to natural foreplay type arousal.
Would be curious if others who have gone cold turkey on porn use have experienced this flatline effect, and if so if its best to ride it out without porn or alternatively to incorporate small amounts of porn usage to try to prevent such a crash in libido?
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I feel like I have the same problem and am trying to overcome it with the sensation focus. When I realized I cannot really hard without porn, i was totally ashamed that i let it go that far with porn. It can also be realted to the deathgrip that we can develop with porn too. I haven’t got a regular partner for the last 10 years ( except a couple ONS) so i managed to misconfigure my body and mind, and falling into this problem. I just really hope that a couple of weeks practicing and no more porn will help me to rewire my brain.
I have also had similar situations, I started watching a lot of porn and found that eventually it was the only way i could get a solid firm erection. I fell into that trap and started to ignore my partner in favor of porn because I could get a solid erection and climax without having to worry about not satisfying my partner.
But eventually I now realized thru research and trying to figure out why I couldn’t maintain an erection during sex that I have been sabotaging myself wuth the porn.
So I have not watched porn since February.
And I have noticed that my libido seems to have flatlined somewhat, I think because my brain is trying to rewire itself.
So now Im here in Mojo hoping to learn skills to help with the process so that I can get back to satisfying my partner and myself without porn.
I think porn and death grip is an issue for me too. I am working to reduce my porn how long I edge to porn (I can go for hours). I dont think porn is the problem perse. It’s that I bate in the same way l, in the same position with a grip that’s so hard it numbs my dick out. I’ve bruised myself several times.
Then add in the anxiety and shame and it’s all fucked up