On again off again erection issues with girlfriend

I love my girlfriend very much, but over the past year and a half I’ve been having on again/off again issues with getting or maintaining an erection when we try to have sex. I’ll be great for a few months, then bad for a few, and the cycle will continue. I’m very attracted to her, but it’s starting to frustrate her to the point where I’m not sure how much longer our relationship can last.

I know my issue isn’t physical, as I can get hard just fine on my own. I don’t think I’m “thinking” about other things or getting nervous when we’re trying to do it, but there’s always a chance I’m subconsciously worried about the off cycle returning.

I’m wondering if any other guys out there are having similar issues, and if there are any steps you’ve taken to remedy it. For reference, I’m in my mid 20s and have a healthy lifestyle, so I believe it’s more of a mental thing, and maybe the foreplay we’re doing just isn’t enough/meeting my own needs. But I’m getting very desperate for help and would appreciate any advice before I lose her for good


I’ve been in and somewhat still am in the exact same situation. I’ve found the exercises and advice on here is a great help and being honest with your partner will open up a better understanding. You know it’s a mental issue that can be overcome, I’d suggest sticking with this program and let your partner know you need her support and things will seem a lot less stressful

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