I lost my erection last night and am feeling low about it. This started happening around November of last year with my ex girlfriend and continues today. It happens occasionally as there seemed to be a miracle where it didn’t happen a good month after this started. Now I’m with a new girl and I seem to have gone back to step one. I’m very turned on by her and want nothing more than to have sex with her, but I got in my head right around foreplay. She was very understanding which I’m very grateful for, I just don’t want this to be a trend. Any thoughts on how to take this pressure off?
I’ve had that too when you’re too focused on the outcome and what your body is doing.
One thing that worked for me is saying to myself: “It doesn’t matter that I’m not getting an erection, we’re not going to go as far as sex”. If your partner is understanding, then it completely takes the pressure off, and makes it more about playing with her body and the pleasure you can give each other from other methods.
Just fool around together and have fun, you don’t have to go further.
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I have similar problems my friend. I don’t have any advice as I’m just getting started with trying to conquer this but just saying you’re not alone. This has been happening to me for years, getting choked up during foreplay or when I move to get on top. All of the girls I’ve been never seem to care. It’s just that not getting what you want and not being able to please them is super frustrating. Just saying I can relate man this shit sucks.
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It’s like I wrote these words myself. I appreciate it brother, we got this!