This problem has been on and off for a few years now with 3 different partners. I’m 19, and have been having sex somewhat consistently for the last 4 years, I’m currently with the girl of my dreams and have dragged this problem on into our relationship. I have some sexual trauma as a child but I was having issues staying hard during foreplay even before I realized I did. Three times now while me and my girlfriend have been starting to get it on my erection just goes away then i just think about getting it back and that obviously doesn’t help either. I hope this app helps because it’s extremely frustrating and kills my self confidence, I’m in great shape I’m afraid I may be overtraining? I work out about 22 hours a week in all with mma and weightlifting, and I also have masturbated to porn numerous times a week since I was 12 or 13. I’ve decided to quit that cold turkey now since my problem is actually with a girlfriend instead of a one night stand. I hope that makes a difference, I know this is a lot but does anybody have any insight for me?
It takes time dude, I was in the same situation a couple months ago but through being consistent I’ve been able to make progress, it’s no perfect but knowing you’re going in the right direction is a great feeling.
You need to get out of your head, it’s normal for erections to come and go. I’ve found meditation really helpful for becoming more mindful and also just focusing on your partner more will take the pressure off of your mind.
Quitting porn is a great first step though!
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