I find myself often really quite upset/angry about having erection issues and the fact it’s meant I’ve missed out on one-night stands and generally had anxiety and lower confidence around sex. I’m fairly certain this also translated to a lower confidence with dating in general and being very pessimistic about it. I know this is a community of people going through the same struggles and I think I convince myself noone else has issues and can have sex whenever they want with no problems so I guess I’m just putting this out there to feel a bit less alone in my struggle.
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All good man, you’re not alone. I’ve never had a one night stand, not really sure if that’s just because it’s not my thing, but it’s definitely a case of having performance anxiety and avoiding those instances in the first place. Im usually ok once I’ve got a partner and they understand and accept my difficulties but my confidence is nowhere near it wants to be. Signed up to the programme today so hoping to see some changes, hope you do too!
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Kiss her deeply and lovingly. Do it again. Feel her lovely breasts against your own. Do it again. Thank your Creator for this warmth and connection. Do it again. Concentrate on what you’re giving, not what you’re getting. Pay attention to her response(s). Respond to her response(s). Do it all again. Enjoy it! You don’t need to penetrate her if it’s not happening; just love her and love her some more. Do it again. Enjoy!!
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I’m with you man!!
I focus on her (my gf’s) pleasure.
I’m kinda small so that’s strike 2 for me (ped as well)
I try to go down on her first and let her a couple Os to start with and then if she goes down on me we can go straight to sex if my dick cooperates…. If not, she’s already cum a few times and ready to snuggle…. My frustration is less because I know I already made her feel like a puddle of jello. 