Hoping someone can give me advice on my situation, I will try to include all relevant info as my sex therapist told me to try and reach out to others. I am a man 20 years old who is in a healthy relationship with my girlfriend, also 20. I have noticed I cannot get/maintain erections when we have sex. I have been to a urologist and my primary doctor who have examined me and said everything looked normal. I have gotten blood work done and I have normal testosterone levels. I am very much attracted to my girlfriend and she has been supporting me throughout this whole ordeal. It’s almost as though I can barely get turned on anymore. I notice that when she sends me explicit pics I don’t get very hard and during sex it’s hard to actually get an erection. We have never had a bad sexual experience so I’m concerned as to why I’m having this issue. I have been taking a viagra pill I’ve gotten online to have sex almost every time but I don’t want to rely on that considering I’m very young and don’t seem to have anything physically wrong with me. I’m hoping someone else has had a similar experience and can maybe share some insight on what helped them? I’m willing to try just about anything to solve this. Thanks.
Keep me updated on your situation bro, my story is almost very similar, been with my gf for 3 years never ever had trouble with erections or anything of that such, a week or so ago I had engaged in sex for the first time in about 2 weeks so I ejaculated earlier then usual and to be honest that had me feeling shitty about myself so I spent the next day doing research on PE, well the morning after that I woke up and realized that I didn’t have a morning erection which sent me into somehwhat of panic mode, later in the day looked at explicit photos of my gf and realized I was struggling to get hard/turned on by them when before it would go up like nothing. It’s now been 6 days I’ve went to the doctors and hospital I’ve been basically cleared on any physical symptoms through ultrasound and physical examination. I believe it’s now extremely physiological for me but I’m having a hard time trying to figure out why/how as I’ve never had this issue in our 3 years together
Big picture: you’re putting too much pressure on yourself and engaging your fight or flight reflex and that is keeping you from getting hard.
Sex is supposed to be fun. With all the pressure you are dealing with, it likely is a big source of anxiety.
I joined this app because my situation is almost the exact same as yours, please keep me updated mate.
I think we will both come out the other side of this and it will be a funny story sooner rather than later, would you recommend going to the doctors as it has been a few weeks on and off for me?
Yeah that’s kinda what I figured too. Only problem is it feels almost subconscious at this point to where even if I try telling myself it’s supposed to be fun it’s still just a point of stress if that makes any sense. Super confusing unfortunately
I would definitely talk to a doctor and see if test levels are normal or even a urologist to see if there’s anything physically wrong but that turned out to be a dead end for me but definitely worth looking into if you haven’t already
Guess it’s that the self critic in you lad, try not to worry/overthink it, easier said that done I know but give this app a go, hopefully it’ll help, maybe it won’t, I don’t know but worth a try, right!? Speak to a therapist maybe? Don’t rely on them pills though man!