I can’t for the life of me get an erection, maintain it, keep it firm and enjoy the sex with my partner. We have been dating and seeing each other for several months and every time we have tried to be intimate I cannot get it up! I feel so embarrassed, humiliated and considering in private when I am able to get it up no problem during masturbation, I can’t when we do/ try to do it!
Has anyone experienced this before and found any solutions or would please care to give advice? We have tried to be intimate after drinking sessions and that was also just a massive no in terms of not being able to get it up. All times I’ve had minimal sleep/ moderate stress.
Has anyone found solutions to this initial phase please? I am scared that I will not be able to get it up at all when I’m around her and all I want to do is please her and improve our sex life.
How old are you, ever had these issues before? Get hard by yourself normally or wake up with boner? Checked your testosterone levels via blood test?
- See a urologist to be sure there’s no medical issue.
- Can you get it up solo? With/without porn?
- Find the explore tab here and start with meditations and Kegals.
Personally, I was super nervous. I focus on getting her to finish a few times before sex. I got pretty good at my fingers, teasing, foreplay and oral game… once she’s finished couple times, I feel the pressure is off me. Then I can enjoy her oral skills and then sex… if I lose it my key is not to panic. Just keep rubbing it on her. She loves it. She’s cum from it before… I’m a foot guy and she’s into it- she indulges me as well as I’m cognizant that there’s a beautiful woman there that all she wants to do is make me feel good…. Any combo of the above usually gives me 15-20 min worth of a hardon…
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