Sorry about the long post …
I have both life long PE as well as Ed issues (and have always had these issues). I’ve tried stamina training, breath work, meditation, start-stop, arousal monitoring - for years and I’m still exactly the same unless I take Pharmaceuticals (viagra and Ssri’s and amino acids) and other supplements. Unfortunately my T levels are normal so I still get the instinctual urges like everyone else.
While I concede that a lot of these issues, particularly now are psychological they all stem from the same source - extreme penis anxiety.
By the age of 5 I was aware I was abnormally small. Then when I was about 6 I fell almost two stories out of a tree and landed feet first on a pool side metal manhole cover which flipped side ways and I continued to fall with the cover edge ways into my groin stoping the fall.
I had no memory of the accident till about a year ago when some random event triggered it.
Previously I was too embarrassed to seek help for my sexual issues but at least the memory has given me some desires to try do something about it.
I have seen a prominent urologist in my country and he says that the soft tissue feels abnormal. This is likely to be internal scarring due to the accident.
Regardless of why - I still have a penis that’s almost too small to engage in penetrative sex, And definitely prevents both good or satisfying sex for either myself or her.
Consequently I’ve never been in a relationship as no relationship lasts longer than the first time in the bedroom - if it gets that far.
I’ve tried various methods to enlarge but nothing really worked and now over the last couple years it appears I’m actually shrinking (erection) as well.
For the last 15. Years I had given up on the idea of ever having sex or being in a relationship - I still severe PTSD from some of the failed intimate experiences I had in my teens and early twenties…. Ever had your partner see your penis, excuse herself to go to the bathroom and proceed to take a drug that puts her into a medically induced coma for a few hours? (That’s just one of the various things that girls have done to get out of the bedroom as quickly as they could once things got heavy).
For self preservation I simply stopped and avoid any situation that might lead to intimacy…. However I’ve been actively trying to deal with it now since the memory triggered but I’m again almost ready to give up and accept that’s my burden to carry all my life.
If someone has any advice about what I can do/try or information on new advancements in the field I would be grateful if you could share.
Thanks