I am 30 years old and had sex for the first time when I was 19. I was super stressed and lost my erection. The girl I was with laughed at me and ridiculed me.
Since then I am struggling with keeping my erection. I can get hard when I stimulate my penis or when I get a blowjob, but as soon as the stimulation stops, I lose my erection. I can stay hard for longer with pills, but I don’t get 100% hard so I can’t do girl on top. Pills also seem to be hit or miss. Sometimes they work, sometimes they don’t.
When I have sex, I always look down to check if I’m still hard. It’s always on my mind. And I think this contributes to me actually losing my erection.
For 12 years I was convinced that i had physical ED. But now I am thinking it could be psychological, or maybe a combination even.
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Keep at this app and journey my friend. If you get morning woods and hard with stimulation it’s probably mental. I’m 41 and never had a problem I couldn’t rally from until just a couple months ago. So I’m here now. Things are getting better for me. Still some setbacks but learning from them and not letting myself spiral like I did before. Big help for me is this community chat that I learned that I’m not “special” and the only one. There are lots of guys going through this and is helpful. I’m not one to ever talk about feelings let alone erection issues so this is most helpful. Sounds like your first did a ton of damage to you man and sorry about that. Hopefully you can get in a relationship with a lady that is good and you can open up to her about that experience and she can help you. My wife of 17 years did something to me a couple of months ago. Wasn’t nearly as mean as what that lady did to you by any stretch but hit me emotionally and mentally wrong and at a time where I have been struggling in the rest of my life and made a perfect storm. My wife feels really bad about it and is trying to help me and supports me doing this. I think doing all these exercises and following the app and getting a good toolbox is awesome. But being with a good partner is also going to be very helpful. Good luck man and we are all here for you! Kind of weird to think a bunch of dudes are all rooting for each others erections lol!
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