Inconsistent Erections and Cant Stay Hard

🍆 Erection issues
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(20years old, athletic) I have had sex several times but a lot of times I have had to settle for nothing because I cant stay hard. I get a small erection from kissing or her jerking me off and then when its time for condom or putting it in I go soft and then I cant get it back even trying very hard to for an hour. This happens too frequently and it makes me anxious about it the whole day before even seeing the girl and it becomes a self full-filling prophecy. I get morning wood and hard on my own very easily, but I lose it within seconds either in bed or alone, I have no idea how to fix that. Little comments she makes about it potentially not working or about getting a condom make me panic and go soft.

I simply cant help but erase the past failures from my mind and they result in new failures. Need help…

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Dude, congratulations on being strong enough to seek help early in life. I started with the same issues at your age and almost 20 years later I’m just seeking help. I’ve tried medications and experimenting with kinks but nothing can help you get out of your own head. Don’t give up, keep trying to improve your mental health.

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Among other things….You need to find a way to have her stop with the comments…

I’d had several conversations with my gf (were 53…) about my issues. (PED, Deathgrip) She knows I adore her and find her sexy as hell- she knows it’s not her! Something x wife couldn’t understand. I suggested to gf there may be ways she could help: encourage me, talk a lil naughty, & realize all I want to do is please you. A while back she asked me to ginger her while she played with a toy!! That was :100: out of her comfort zone- but the ask alone was sooooo hot!! Then when we did it she finished super hard and it got me going as well!!!
I also suggest you read all the topics here and replies. Lots of good experiences here! Good luck!!:four_leaf_clover: