Hey all, just joined mojo. I experienced my first bout of psychological ED at about 19 during a hook up and it has scared me ever since. I met my wife of 9 years and luckily the issue never occurred when we first dated and throughout our marriage. Towards the end of the marriage, I started getting psychological ED again when things were getting bad between us.
Now, being divorced as of this year, hookups worry me. I’ve already had a few bouts of psychological ED (I do fine on my own and wake up hard every morning). My doctor prescribed me viagra to help gain my confidence back. I’ve taken it with most hookups I’ve had and had success. I fear the idea of becoming reliant on the pill. I’m hoping this app helps me re-wire my brain a bit to feel normal again. I have a high sex drive and would love to know my penis will work every time I need it to.
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I am right there with you and having the same issues at 27! I don’t know why though… Not bragging at all but I used to have sex left and right and not think twice about it. Now, here in the last couple of months, I have issues with going soft and maintaining erections for some reason. Not to mention, I’m with the hottest girl I’ve ever dated?! Doesn’t make sense to me. It’s very frustrating when you’re insanely attracted to someone yet, your penis is not cooperating. BUT I will say, I am 3 days into this and I am already feeling better about my psychological ED. It happened once last week and it was very embarrassing and confusing, quite frankly. Then ofcourse, I got in my head and I’ve been there since. I was taking some hair loss meds too for a long period of time which I believe might be the culprit of these feelings so beware but… that’s a topic for another day. I was also recently prescribed generic Cialys but I am also scared of becoming dependent on it. My goal of this program is to not need it and to be confident in my ability to perform. I’ve taken it once, wasn’t really a fan of how it made me feel physically but I knew I was ready to go at anytime.
Just know that we might have different stories but you’re not alone.
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Can relate to this fellas. Keep doing the work and believe in yourself! I’ve only started it but I believe positive mantras and affirmations can also help. Shutting down that potential for self fulfilling prophecies
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Very similar to me. Came on the app as was worried about reliance on the pills but would never go back.
Wax and wane really helped. Reminds yourself that even if you lose it, it will come back. Told my partner about wax and wane. Try and make it playful and a joint effort should you lose it in the moment.
That takes me on to the next thing that helped. Sensate and touch. Struggled to fit the sensate exercises in but being conscious of feeling across the whole body and using it to excite was really helpful. As a hetro man I feel ourselves and our partners forget we like to be touched too and it’s not all about the dick.
Separating sex and intimacy from penetration. Sometimes associate hardness with ability to please yourself and your partner but that’s not the case. May not work for every partner but even in your own head make sure you’re making time for touch, kissing and foreplay and giving that equal value. That means even if penetration doesn’t happen or PE (one of my main issues) you’ve both hand a pleasurable sexual experience.
Ditch porn and bring sensate and touch in to masturbation. Combine this with stop/start I’ve had some amazing wanks never mind sex. I’m hoping replacing my self pleasure with a more holistic approach rubs of on my relationship. So far, so good. Still a WIP but both me and my partner are seeing the rewards.
Keep going.
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I’m in a similar boat … I have never had issues before but I’m with someone now I absolutely adore but have the same issues when I penetrate her…
I get so locked in my head and fantastically implode …. Imagining the worse, feeling like a complete failure , completely inadequate and worthless.
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