My wife and i had virtually no sex for 20 years. It went up and down but was mostly virtually abseny. For at least five years, every time we had sex she would say
“Don’t kiss me don’t touch me”
“Aren’t you done yet”
“Do you feel better now”
Then on our anniversary she sent me a video of her masturbating and we started having a lot of sex. We went away one weekend and tried sex fifteen times.
However in that weekend i came twice and I’ve had issues with coming for years
Last year she announced she was leaving me. I worked to get her to stay and then she announced we were in an open relationship. I hit it off with a number of ladies but I met one, and we spent the night together. The sex was terrible, it lasted a minute and I went soft. She and ii stayed in touch and probably fell in love. She was married though and liked to sleep around.
When we were on the verge of having sex again my wife closed our relationship but decided she had a free pass. She had several guys she was talking to, she had one over and fucked him three times in two hours.
This has left me sure that i was not enough for her, that this other guy was bigger and better, and I am not enough.
That was six months ago. We don’t live together, I forgot to mention. We see each other rarely and sometimes I’m fine but last weekend was our anniversary and we had sex five times. I came twice. Once I couldn’t even get hard, which rarely happens. I’d just gone down on her for 20 minutes which usually gets me there
So I’m wondering how many other guys have issues with having sex but not being able to come. I find we often stop before I hurt her (no I’m not enormous, she just dries out after 15 minutes)