I’ve been married for 9 years and suffered from ED which has had a big impact on our sexual relationship (or lack of). My wife tries to initiate sex with me sometimes but as soon as I lose my erection she rolls over, ends any interaction and tells me that ‘she’s not sexy’, and ‘she can’t do this anymore.’ I offer to pleasure her but she doesn’t let me. Does anyone else have this problem?
Hi, yes I’m in the same situation. 12 years married with ED issues on and off. Last few years have been the worst. My wife and I still love each other very much, but she says she can’t imagine being intimate with me ever again and wants to separate. I wish I had tried to deal with the issue earlier.
Was in my first relationship for 7 months, first month she was very supportive, and I wasn’t getting myself out of my head and eventually I realized she’s not as enthusiastic in bed and to a lot of extent felt like has given up on me. With time I was improving, but I still had my bad runs here and there and the frequency of leading to sex severely diminished and throughout the relationship, she might have initiated probably 3 times. For 5 of those months I was unemployed and had a lot of stress on getting a new job, else I could have tried to take my time to go to sex therapy or couples therapy to figure out my problem. I found new job, felt very secure, had one moment where I lost erection mid sex and she made sure to know that she was disappointed. Next day she was snappy with me and few days later broke up with me citing sex as one of the reason.
There were other minor reasons, but none that couldn’t have been worked out if we ever really cared to sit, talk, and see what we can do. But well, she jumped as breakup as the only way. Sooo yeah.
Sorry to hear that mate. It’s so frustrating as she shakes me in every argument. I feel like even though I do so much for the family, my ED, in her mind, is the only cause of our issues.