Hi guys. I felt the need to share this. After a sexless marriage, where my wife wouldnāt come anywhere near me, we broke up. About 9 months later, I met another girl. I quickly found out that I had ED. I blame this on my marriage. My new partner was less than understanding and would sulk when I couldnāt perform. It made matters a LOT worse, so much so that I ended up avoiding any chance of sex.
Fast forward 18 months and we broke up. Four weeks ago, I met another girl. We connected instantly. I was honest with her from the word go about my ED. She was totally cool and understanding. Because of this, my confidence in bed is coming back rapidly. We had great sex the other night and the following morning. My cock was harder than itās been in a LONG time.
I suppose the reason Iām writing this is to highlight how, in a lot of cases, ED is largely psychological. But with the right partner/ set of circumstances, you can get back to where you want to be.
Good luck to all of you and donāt give up. I nearly did, but I made the move to be honest with my girl and itās paid off.
Congrats on the win!
Nice work brother!!!
Similar situation. 23 yr marriage to frosty the snow wife!
New lady 7 mo ago. Totally up front with her. I even had gone and got tested for stds and sent a sperm sample to confirm my vasectomy was still good before I started dating again.
During marriage I played solo a lot. With porn. Daily. To the point I canāt finish anywhere but my own handā¦.(deathgrip)
Sheās super supportive and encouraging.
Weāve talked about itās not HER problem but there are ways she might be able to help:
Talking naughty or direct. (Kinda taking control?) the other morning she asked me to finger her while she used a toyā¦ā¦
I have ped also- I can get 70% hard and sex ids possible but no way can I finish. Sheās content to go down then try to finish me with a handy or watch and encourage me to finish myself. She loves to watch and I fantasize sheās forcing me to JO for her entertainmentā¦.
Seems to workā¦
Good luck man!!
Hope all continues to get better, my friend.
Yep, I relied on porn too much during my failing marriage. So much so that I fear my inability to get hard during sex was down to my ādeath gripā over the years. If porn is something you want to distance yourself from, I recommend Easy Peasy. It worked for me. I havenāt watched porn for many weeks and donāt miss it. Iām convinced this has helped me get hard again with my woman. Best of luck, brother.
I quit porn and solo about 90% on my own. Usually only indulge myself like after Iāve been with gf and havenāt managed to finish or when I know I wonāt see her for a couple daysā¦. Donāt want it to affect my chances of being successful with her!