I’m M33 and I have recently left my marriage of 11 years after it becoming pretty much sexless. 9.5 times out of 10, whenever I attempted to initiate intimacy with my then wife, it was met with pretty aggressive rejection and it got to the point where I felt sex was just being used as a weapon. Ever since I have struggled to gain and maintain an erection due to the phycological effects this has had on me.
Fast forward to last night, I went on a date whilst resulted in me getting intimate for the first time since leaving my wife, however no matter what we both tried, I could not get it up. We discussed this and she was chill about it all and we have another date already lined up, but I can’t help but let this knock my confidence and I don’t want to disappoint her with a constant inability to get an erection.
I have an appointment with my doctor about this next week but in the interim, does anyone have any advice to help improve this situation? My problem is that mentally I am so ready for sex with this girl I’m dating, it’s just my body doesn’t seem to want it, and that’s the incredibly frustrating part of it all.