My last boyfriend worked with me and I was able to get hard and fuck him, but could never come inside of him. Now he’s broken up with me, and I keep feeling like if I could have learned how to come inside him, he would have stayed. It sounds silly, but I know he likes it, and I know that’s what he likes most now. Meanwhile, I can’t get hard with anyone anymore, even for a minute. I’m terrified I’ll never have a full sexual life, and that every partner I have will be disappointed.
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I can only talk about half of this since I’m battling to cum in my partner as well… but for the getting hard part sounds like youre way too much in ur head… ur so scared it’s not going to work that it doesnt… I think u need some time to urself… Start small… I know ppl r very against porn and such here but if it helps u get hard use it . Just to show urself “it’s working” use what ever u need to just to show urself it’s working . Give urself some wins so u can see u can do it…
As for the Cumming part… I’m also battling to cum in my partner… I been working similarly in using things and trying to get myself to cum in different ways just so I can show my body it can work… I hope it helps a bit . But I really think u need to just get our ur head . Focus on what feels good… and what u enjoy a bit so u can get it all working and stop worrying about it
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yeah, I can get hard by myself relatively easily. but as soon as I’m with another person I get stressed. I wasn’t stressed by my last partner, but he was deeply in love with me, very thoughtful, and extremely hot. then, very suddenly, he decided he couldn’t have a boyfriend and broke up with me. he says that it’s confusing, that he’s in love with me, that he imagines a future when we’re together but that he’s needs to do things that now that he can only do single. and now we’re just friends, and I sleep over but we don’t have sex, and instead he tells me about all the guys who are fucking him all the time. and I can’t help but think, well, the thing you really wanted was guys who could come in you. it’s the one thing I couldn’t really give him, and so now we’re just friends. I go on dates with other guys, they’re hot, but they don’t do it for me. I feel maybe traumatized?
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