I love my wife dearly. We’re both 33 years old. I’ve known her since elementary school, we dated on and off in high school, and we got married last year. We live in our hometown. She’s my companion and best friend.
But I am having trouble being attracted to her. As a result, we have been having sex less and less. Often periods of two and three months in between. It breaks my heart. And I feel ashamed that I feel this way. I would never tell her about my issue.
On top of this I am taking several psych meds which are definitely affecting my libido, and enjoyment of life in general. I’ve also gained 50lbs in a year due to these meds, and my confidence in my body is way down.
Can someone advise? Thanks.
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It sounds to me that it’s not so much that you aren’t attracted to your wife as you are experiencing a low sex drive for totally understandable reasons. Show yourself some compassion and understanding for the stuff you’re going through. Do you find yourself fantasising about other women over your wife? Do you think you would choose sex with another woman over your wife, or are you just not in the place to be sexual right now? And to be clear, either answer is valid and doesn’t say anything wrong about you. I just thought these questions could help you figure out what you’re feeling, how to process them, and an idea of your next steps
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Well, The issue is that you known your wife since high school, you just want something new. Do you watch a lot of porn?
You have too do your best to get off the meds. I’m a combat marine with multiple tours during president Bush and Obama. I was medicated for a few years. I know what I’m talking about. They are not good in the long term. Excersise nutrition proper sleep and meditation will get you there
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