No matter what I do lately, I just can’t seem to have any sexual desire. I’m not really sure what’s going on because I’m losing weight and eating right. I’m even going to the gym more than I ever have in years. And for some reason I just don’t get horny like no matter what I do. Also the doctor said my testosterone is normal level.
your testosterone levels are normal, so that’s good. are you resting enough & consistently getting quality sleep?
you’ve increased your activity level, you’re losing weight, & you’re eating better so your body is adjusting to the changes. it’s crucial that you try and get around 8 hours of sleep every single night. if you’re in a calorie deficit, that quite literally means you have less energy. this is needed if you’re aiming to lose weight, but all the more reason you need to REST.
exercising is excellent for you, but moving your body a ton doesn’t mean you’re completely in tune with it. are you meditating? do you know how to relax physically & mentally? that’s important for getting in tune with your body outside of working out.
you’ve got the endorphins flowing, great! it could help to practice associating pleasurable sensations with different parts of your body.
you know how to tune in with your body when it comes to exercise, so you’re already skilled in noticing the sensations there. this will help with teaching your body new sensations that are physically pleasurable.
also, it’s completely normal to have phases where your sex drive is low. ideally we’d all have high sex drives all the time, but that’s not realistic.
there are so many life factors that could be influencing this as well. if you’re on any medications, double check the side effects or any interactions between meds if you’re taking multiple. if your professional and/or personal life is stressful, that might be affecting you. this goes back to practicing meditation.
perhaps try masturbating more often. sometimes it’s a “use it or lose it” kind of thing where your body might “forget,” if that makes sense. masturbating could help with “re-activating” your sex drive, so to speak.
again, you could simply be going through a phase where your sex drive is low. that’s 100% normal and okay. be patient with yourself. it sounds like you’re already on the right track.
Are you feeling stressed or anxious at the minute? My sex drive is very low at the minute due to anxiety and it’s like a self fulfilling prophecy where the more I get anxious about it not coming back, the lower my sex drive becomes. But anxiety is definitely a driving factor at blocking out any desire. I’ve realized masturbating does help me get it back. Or try the wax and waine exercise
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I had a similar thing here—I noticed if I was focusing on that sex drive while masturbating, I still just couldnt get it up. The point I came to was that I needed to just enjoy it, bc thinking about it shut off my pleasure center
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Yeah, by doing the wax and waine activity, you kinda just forget about your worries over sexual desire and sex in general and it just feels natural. I’ve been struggling with low sexual desire due to anxiety but the other day I was on holiday and didn’t worry once and my desire just came back for 2 days. Point is, low sexual desire mentally is usually driven by anxiety and stress and overthinking. When we just don’t stress we become our natural self again and it will come back.