Hey all, I’m 25 and been struggling with negative body image, porn and masturbation.
A bit about me, I have been always alone and struggled with talking to girls. I stumbled upon porn at a very young age 13/14 and have been watching it since. As I grew older I started being more and more conscious about my body. I’m not fat but I’m average with little muscle definition but my penis is small, would be around 5 inches and not thick and masculine.
Because of this I never really try to make connections or try to get into relationships as I know that there would be point when we’ll have sex and at that point I would fell short so there’s no point starting it.
I don’t know if it is just me or if anyone has been through something similar. Any advice or learning from your experience would be greatly helpful.
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Girls usually don’t care that much about size. What matters more is confidence, connection, and knowing what you’re doing, emotionally and physically. So I’d focus on the mental side first, and build confidence through therapy. That’s usually the fastest, most effective route.
And later, when you’re with someone you trust and you’re both open about it, you can always add toys during sex. A penis sleeve is also an option if you want an occasional boost, and it can help if you still feel like you need “extra” to fully satisfy her.
5 inches isn’t even that small man. Don’t be fooled by the giant dicks you see in porn, women aren’t expecting that and they like all shapes and sizes.
Thank you!
Yeah I know that size isn’t everything but I’ve always been afraid if I won’t be able to satisfy or be judged.
But yeah therapy sounds like a good first step to try and resolve the mental side first.
Also, do you any advice or suggestions on how to build confidence around girls, not necessarily for dating but in general.
I’m an older guy (57) and about the same size if not a little smaller. Let me tell you something, porn is the problem. Not just with you, but everywhere. When I was in college and my 20s I never had a single woman complain or have anything negative to say about my dick. Use the right techniques, put their needs first and make them cum with your dick mouth or hand or all of them depending what works, then focus on you. If you leave them satisfied they won’t care about size.
In regards to confidence. It is HUGELY important. Women love it. And here is the kicker, you don’t need to have it. You just have to pretend you have it. Literally fake it till you make it. Girls and women appreciate being approached, you know why? Because they would be afraid to do it themselves. So any effort on your part is appreciated. I never had a lot of confidence but pretended I did and it always worked out. I rember a scene in a movie where a kid was afraid to do something (let’s say it was to ask a girl out), and the guy giving advice said “Can you be brave for 20 seconds?” That’s it. Tell yourself to be brave for 20 seconds, pretend you are the most confident guy in the world and just do it. You will be surprised.
This is just my opinion. I’m on this app because I have issues of my own which are age related. But if you can be confident, forget about dock size and make her happy you’ll be just fine.
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