Hi,
Iāve made a post here before and I got some incredible help. I posted this on another app and got really berated on it..but I need some help.
So Iām 21, Iāve always been rejected in romance by peers and others, nothing serious..a few days ago I ended a āfriend zoneā relationship I had online because she would never show interest in things that made me. Me. It was kind of a catfish, and a few other things. And it was hard..really hard..so when I ended it I started working on myself and Iām already seeing a increase in my physical side which is greatā¦BUTā¦
Iāve never been with a woman before..Iāve wanted to be a loving partner and a dad..so bad..so fucking bad⦠and this vein of doubt creeped in..saying that Iāll never get it up with a woman. Iāll never be able to be reliable..and Iām scaredā¦
Iāve met with doctors and lifestyle advice people and taken depression meds..nothing.. so Iām at a loss.
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So im the end of your story im 55 and things have started to dip off but ive found this app so helpful in the way it almost drums it into that you can be ok ,things have definitely improved for me by just sticking to it , i know when i was young performance anxiety was huge sometimes it wouldnāt work and othertimes it would go off on its own it had a total mind of its own , when you find the right person communicate your concerns before hand take it slow become relaxed and comfortable with other and im pretty sure you will be fine just dont put pressure on yourself to be perfect straight away nobody was believe me ,good luck
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21 is not an extremely high age for loosing your virginity nowadays, so dont worry. The thing is, you dont even know whether you will get it up when you finally have a partner. The hormones that are at play early on in a relationship are insane, you will feel totally different. Just try it out and when it does fail, I guarantee you that it will work eventually. My advice is to get in there as soon as possible, get yourself a proper dating app (not one for hookups) and start dating. If you get rejected, and you probably will, its hard, but you have to learn to move on.
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I didnāt lose my virginity until I was almost 26! Been married and divorced since then and with a great girl now.
Plenty of time bud. Donāt put undue pressure on yourself.
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