I was in an accident last year and following the accident whether it was due to the stress of not having a vehicle for a bit of time, or finances, or the headache of insurance, or a physical injury, I had a few bouts of unexplained ED. We had sex multiple times a day every day but suddenly once every few days I’d not get hard or Id go limp mid way.
Unfortunately we were only months in to our relationship and her past was not kind to her. I’m empathetic and patient so I understood how a woman may feel awful and want to close off about such a topic. She tried to help once or twice with long foreplay or specific links but with no immediate relief every time she was discouraged.
This led to a very trying time in our relationship. After months of counselling as well as Mojo practice I thought I was rid of at least performance anxiety (I suffer from normal anxiety).
As of late we got pregnant so of course the stressors are present here and there, to get everything as best it can be for baby. But with them came the performance anxiety, with the added worry that she will feel she has lost her beauty as her belly grows.
I am horny on and off throughout most days but by the time our time comes around anxiety is ramped up so high unless I’m so horny I can’t stand it I generally just avoid making a move.
It’s killing me. I want to talk to her but again with the pregnancy Im so afraid she will feel it personal. Many men in her past have done her wrong, I just don’t want her to think I am after anything but her.
Does anyone at all have any advice or experience or even just words of wisdom. I just want to go back to having fun. She’s the best I’ve ever had and that’s why we are engaged and having a baby.