So after reading some and thinking about my habits, Iāve realized that when I masturbate, Iām always just looking for a quick cum. I read about people having āsessionsā that seem to last for a while and I just wonder what is being thought about? Like is it just building up to the orgasm? Is it just feeling the sensation throughout your whole body? What? Like I just think about getting there. I know I probably sound dumb and Iām 41 so I figure I should know by now. Iām well versed in the female body and how to please a woman, but I think Iām finding i donāt know much about what exactly I like because I always concentrate of my woman (which is now just my wife)
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There are some courses on this exact thing around phase 3 or 4 I think, and avoiding the ādeath gripā when jerking off
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Yeah me too I realized. Actually even sex with partner had got somewhat goal oriented ie cum each quick.
I found the mojo solo sensate and directed masturbation and wax n wane sessions have changed my masturbation habits - yes itās about extended self foreplay basically - touching your body everywhere and focus on that and relax into it, tease your cock and balls (or whatever you want to do) and build yourself up - tease yourself to be really hard ( or whatever you want) - and using your mind to fantasize or focus on you and your sensations . Taking it slowly or vary what you do and genuinely play with yourself and explore.
This needs a āsessionā - a comfortable amount of time and a place.
I discovered new erotic zones for me.
This is on contrast to say a porn induced erection and a quick jack off using tried and true speed and pressures.
For me the slow extended session is so much better I donāt even want to watch porn now say - except the occasional stress induced urgent need to cum episode.
But yes you need some time and privacy to do this way.
Building this approach to my partner is a work in progress!
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I feel this so much, and life with kids and less time to myself makes it even more so.
Really hard work to reverse it, but Iām trying
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Thanks so much for the reply. Luckily my wife is very supportive. Iām currently working on mixing porn all together and I feel this is also whatās brought on my self neglect. Iām definitely interested in the things you mentioned that have helped you and will now be looking to see where I can locate said āexercisesā
You got this!
I cum too quickly 1 to 4 minutes itās embarrassing
This is stuff I think about every day and I am glad to know that I am not alone I also struggle with this and I am also mentally exhausted because of religious views as well and I hope I can or if I will ever get through this one day 
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They each came up in my task list as I worked through the phases.
However I have seen people talk aboutāl ā exercisesā that have not come up in my task list ( penis root masturbation and start stop to name a couple) I think tasks may depend on the responses to the initial questions when you sign up -and I havenāt seen a bank of exercises other than the ones that have already been assigned to me.
@ Mojo Team - is there a bank of all exercises for people to explore?
Donāt be embarrassed. Thereās ways to work through that
Iām also very āreligiousā. Iām a devoted Christian but beside that it can still be a huge challenge. Iām actually working to break my porn addiction 
. Luckily I have a very supportive wife
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I feel this on a deep level and I donāt know how to get through it 
I hate being this way but I am always finding myself falling back into this and then repenting and the cycle repeats I try to do better but I have doubts everyday sorry if this is extra but itās also relatable to me 
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