So after reading some and thinking about my habits, I’ve realized that when I masturbate, I’m always just looking for a quick cum. I read about people having “sessions” that seem to last for a while and I just wonder what is being thought about? Like is it just building up to the orgasm? Is it just feeling the sensation throughout your whole body? What? Like I just think about getting there. I know I probably sound dumb and I’m 41 so I figure I should know by now. I’m well versed in the female body and how to please a woman, but I think I’m finding i don’t know much about what exactly I like because I always concentrate of my woman (which is now just my wife)
There are some courses on this exact thing around phase 3 or 4 I think, and avoiding the “death grip” when jerking off
Yeah me too I realized. Actually even sex with partner had got somewhat goal oriented ie cum each quick.
I found the mojo solo sensate and directed masturbation and wax n wane sessions have changed my masturbation habits - yes it’s about extended self foreplay basically - touching your body everywhere and focus on that and relax into it, tease your cock and balls (or whatever you want to do) and build yourself up - tease yourself to be really hard ( or whatever you want) - and using your mind to fantasize or focus on you and your sensations . Taking it slowly or vary what you do and genuinely play with yourself and explore.
This needs a “session” - a comfortable amount of time and a place.
I discovered new erotic zones for me.
This is on contrast to say a porn induced erection and a quick jack off using tried and true speed and pressures.
For me the slow extended session is so much better I don’t even want to watch porn now say - except the occasional stress induced urgent need to cum episode.
But yes you need some time and privacy to do this way.
Building this approach to my partner is a work in progress!
I feel this so much, and life with kids and less time to myself makes it even more so.
Really hard work to reverse it, but I’m trying
Thanks so much for the reply. Luckily my wife is very supportive. I’m currently working on mixing porn all together and I feel this is also what’s brought on my self neglect. I’m definitely interested in the things you mentioned that have helped you and will now be looking to see where I can locate said “exercises”
You got this!
I cum too quickly 1 to 4 minutes it’s embarrassing
This is stuff I think about every day and I am glad to know that I am not alone I also struggle with this and I am also mentally exhausted because of religious views as well and I hope I can or if I will ever get through this one day
They each came up in my task list as I worked through the phases.
However I have seen people talk about”l “ exercises” that have not come up in my task list ( penis root masturbation and start stop to name a couple) I think tasks may depend on the responses to the initial questions when you sign up -and I haven’t seen a bank of exercises other than the ones that have already been assigned to me.
@ Mojo Team - is there a bank of all exercises for people to explore?
Don’t be embarrassed. There’s ways to work through that
I’m also very “religious”. I’m a devoted Christian but beside that it can still be a huge challenge. I’m actually working to break my porn addiction . Luckily I have a very supportive wife
I feel this on a deep level and I don’t know how to get through it I hate being this way but I am always finding myself falling back into this and then repenting and the cycle repeats I try to do better but I have doubts everyday sorry if this is extra but it’s also relatable to me