Recently had an encounter where I got hard during foreplay, then when it came time put on a confirm. After couple seconds of penetration got soft. Eventually we both got frustrated and decided to try it raw, which worked pretty perfectly. Anyone else have this experience? Trying to understand the root of the problem, because I thought my issue was with anxiety, but this wouldn’t make sense if i am able to penetrate without a condom…
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Yes, I found it’s a combination of blood flow restriction at the base and reduced friction felt on the tip. A wider condom brand can help with this, you may also want to be selective with your chosen position for increased friction sensation with a condom.
I personally have to start with doggy for a while when I have the friction issue, which helps me stay hard for other positions.
Possible lack of senaation woth a condom on. It feels better raw so its easier to stay hard. Trying different kinds of condoms. Comment above mentions extra wode, you can also try ultra thin or some of the “bare skin” options.
I read another member say they change their view on wearing a rubber so that it’s the key to unlock sex. Make it part of foreplay, like mischievously taking her panties off makes you anticipate what’s about to happen- pitting a rubber on ALLOWS you to have sex…
I thought it was a pretty good idea!
(Says the guy that had a V 20 years ago….
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Had this problem for three years until last week. Put a nice bit of lube in the condom( not too much or it will fall off), the lube reduced the feeling you are wearing a condom, I kept my boner the whole sex and even came, a first for me in three years as I always lost the boner and could never cum due to the horrible feeling of condoms, I’ve done it a second time since and the nerves were completely gone, I knew I could do it, and kept the boner and came again, it’s life changing! A few pumps of lube into the condom before you put it on and a bit on your dick, really reduced the friction
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Make sure it’s the right size for you
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I fully agree with trying different condoms. I had the same issue, but after a couple of brands i found the right fit for me. However, all the times where i got soft led to me stressing out about condoms, so it’s more of a mental issue for me now