I seem to be able to have unprotected sex with no issues at all. As a college student, It’s obviously much smarter to use a condom, but as soon as I put one on I go soft. This gives me anxiety all the time thinking about why I can perform raw but not with a condom. The anxiety about this has started to pop up in my daily life and doesn’t seem to go away. Thoughts?
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I have a similar issue. I think it’s just a self fulfilling cycle where putting it on reminds me of
previous times I’ve lost it after putting on a condom. The advice around focusing on physical sensations helps a lot: the more I can stay in the moment and enjoy the feelings I’m having, the less room I have for fears about losing my erection.
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Have you tried jerking off in a condom to get used to the different sensation? Raw is much more intense, it takes a bit more effort to stay hard in a condom of you find it numbing.
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That makes a lot of sense, I’ll try that. Thank you!