recently i’ve become single and i’ve started using condoms for pretty much the first time in my life. it feels stupid but i legit thinks it gives me some sort of anxiety and takes me out of it. i can’t help but think about how rubbery everything feels.
Yeah it’s a fairly common problem, one I’ve had to deal with in the past, the best way I found to tackle it was to try putting on a condom alone after I’ve already got hard, that way I can prepare for how it’ll feel… I also tried it with a cock ring too, which helped me stay hard for longer with the condom on.
One approach is to get your partner to put it on for you, though sometimes if they struggle it makes it awkward. My wife and I tried that approach and it just made me go soft quicker, whereas now I’ve figured out how to get it on super quick so there’s not much time between me getting it on and going soft, that way we can get the sex going and once I’m inside her I’m fine.
Hope I could help in some way, just realise that you’re not the only one who’s dealt/dealing with it and it’ll get better with experience.
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appreciate the insight king, i was also thinking about using condoms solo to get used to it.
I can totally relate. My first time was with a condom and while it wasn’t great to begin with, I went soft after a while and didn’t finish. Ever since, I’ve had multiple instances of it happening which has been a huge reason why I haven’t used them altogether despite sleeping around a bit in college. As far as enjoyment of sex, it’s felt pointless to me if you’re just going to dull all sensitivity with a condom. I don’t have a solution for you, but I feel your pain and I’m hoping we can both find a solution