I lose my erection as soon as I put on a condom, which is really troubling me. This makes me anxious during sex, further affecting my ability to maintain an erection.
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Same issue here, I lose it often during the act of getting in and putting it on, interrupts the actions and gives my mind space to think.
What i found can work for me;
Preparing the condom conveniently close
Telling her to play with herself while I’m getting it (turns me on)
Getting her to give oral as I’m opening it
Not taking my eyes of her
Try some.
Eventually, I need to reduce spectatoring to a minimum to prevent this issue. I’m thinking about my erection too much while getting the condom on
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I got this too, mate. For me when I put it on, because it takes focus, I go back into my head. I disconnect from the sexy time and bam, go soft. And because I expect it to happen, there’s the whole self-talk, self observation and criticism on top of that.
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Same. I can’t even count how many times this phase has ruined the night. Rarely will I continue afterwards. Main thing that helps is her playing with me while I get it ready and once it’s on to get back in there quick.
I have the same issue. I like your idea of getting her to give oral while you are reaching for the condom, unwrapping, etc. nice extra way to get more blowjobs! Which of course help get us more excited!
I’d say this is totally common and something I thought would be a problem with my new girlfriend who wants to use them, but have realised it doesn’t have to be an issue.
Preparing the condom close by is a great tip, I do that.
Also maybe when you’re alone, practice getting them out of the packet and putting them on, and then masturbating, so you get used to enjoying having them on. The Durex Nude are great and you barely know they’re on, while a climax with a condom I feel can be better than without.
Learn the right way to put them on as there is a wrong and right way it rolls, inspect it, take your time and if it doesn’t work have a laugh about it, me and the girlfriend have had many jokes about me putting it on right and celebrating when it does haha.
The main thing that helped me was knowing it was ok to go soft for a bit because by working out what I like to do with the girlfriend, the hardness will come back. I don’t rush to put them on, I’ll wait until I know I’m ready, with the confidence of knowing I enjoy having them on, she’s now happy which makes me happy, and it’s doesn’t have to go perfect every time!
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I go.soft with condoms too. Luckily most of my partners are ok without them.