Hey everyone, I’ve always had issues putting a condom on when going to have sex even from the first time I had sex. I’m not sure if it’s the sensation of putting a condom on, putting it on wrong, or using the wrong size, but my penis always goes soft after trying. In some sexual encounters, I just end up going raw but I can’t rely on that because I know most women prefer a man use a condom, especially if it’s a one night stand. Was wondering if anyone here has experience and how you would suggest going about fixing this issue. Thanks
hey. My psych ED issues actually began from discomfort with condoms. Then I only did raw dogging, then eventually the anxiousness continued to even without condoms.
First off, I’m switching to a thinner and skinnier brand and seeing if that helps. I think the brand I’ve been using is too thick and makes it impossible to feel.
The main thing is comfort. When I masturbate now, I only masturbate standing up (something I’ve never done, only ever did it laying or sitting down my whole life) and I put the condom on and masturbate with the condom.
What I’ve noticed is it’s okay if you soften up a bit during the process. The act of putting a condom on (and thinking about the right way to do it) is literally like focusing all of your attention on your penis and therefore erection. It’s the exact opposite of what we learn to do here.
So getting to a comfort level where I feel automatic with the condom is a huge first step. I don’t even think about them anymore I just do it. And also, if my penis gets softer (from 90% to 75%) as I put the condom on I really don’t mind. Because I know it was an unnatural step, something that took my focus away. Now, as girls emphasize foreplay, I have to emphasize foreplay for myself to get back to a stronger level.
Very rarely do I put a condom on with a rock hard rocket cock and just start pounding my partner.
Usually I put it on then continue playing to let my mind readjust.
It also is really helpful if you invite your partner to put it on with you. Then it’s not this weird one sided duty. And it can make it fun and sexy.
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I read were some guys think of putting a rubber on is a ticket to sex.
I’ve never been a fan and I had a vasectomy years ago. Marriage ended and I got tested and I’m now monogamous with a gf.