Hey there, i have this problem where I Will already get hard from just kissing and i Will stay hard during the entire foreplay but the second I want to put it in I just go soft and ik cant realy het it in then so I Will just get in to my Head and start to worry again witch maken it worse and worse anyone else who can relate? And maybe anybody who has got Some tips on how to solve this?
I think its just performance anxiety but I am just not sure om how to fix it. Yesterday after it happend again I did have an open conversation about it with my girlfriend but i am not sure id this Will solve anything. Thanks for reading my story would love to hear Some tips om how to solve this problem!
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Yes I can relate . Been with my wife for 15 years . This started happening to me after I lost my erection one time. Is this the first time for you? Or has this always been an issue? I also believe that it’s totally psychological for me.
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It has always been happening to me to be honest but I don’t have much experience so since my first time it has been like 6 or 7 times i think. How are u doing now has it been better?
I had the same issue early on I’m 46 years old now. Honestly once I got more comfortable and out of my head it went away. I would say yours is totally performance anxiety and nerves . Once I got in the committed relationship it went away for me. I think I’ve always had convictions on having sex outside of marriage and that was honestly my main issue. Keep your head up and don’t rush things you will be just fine!!
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Aaah oké, thank you for sharing!
I also have the same issue that i am looking for an answer for gere, apparently during kissing and foreplay phases got good erection and it lasts, as soon as i need to penetrate, goes to shit^) and the feeling whilst inside her is not that strong, the sensation i mean as it should be, what is that result of? Desensitized penis? Thanks guys
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I think its just nerves tbh how long has it been going on for you?
Same issue just started 3 weeks ago
So crazy how one “bad” experience can lead a person down a path of misery. I can have amazing sex with my gf for weeks and one time of going soft can send me into a spiral.
I need to start remembering the good/successful times that far outnumber the less than successful times.
Do not beat yourself up about this. This was my same experience… My first encounters were less than successful and it started a path of doubt and performance anxiety. This does not define you and it is only a portion of your life, even though it may not feel that way.
Start loving yourself more and you will make a change.
I know man its insane. And so hard to get out of we just need to accept that things like this can happen once in a while and move on.