Losing erection even during masturbation

Today I felt horny and put on a porn video and started masturbating. I was really rock hard and into the session, but after a while I started to lose my erection. I noticed that I didn’t lose my erection though I was horny, but rather that lost horniness, which caused me to lose my erection.

I think negative emotions triggered this response in my brain, as I looked on my phone and thought about how the girl I had been dating hadn’t responded in a while, and I thought of her not being interested in me anymore.

Also, I thought of how I have a hard time reaching a climax and somehow felt that I wouldn’t be able to reach a climax this time, so that made me feel less horny too.

I can’t stand how my brain is so sensitive to negative emotions. I can feel horny at one point, and totally start losing interest in sex the next moment if I’m having a negative thought.

I do notice that focusing on the things I can see and feel help me to prevent negative thoughts from intruding, but I feel like that when one pops up there’s no turning back. Does anyone recognise this?

It sounds like you’re already aware of what is happening. Those negative thoughts come up and you can’t help but follow them. I have a similar thing outside of sex too.

No one can control what thought jumps into their head but you can choose to follow or not. Maybe try talking back to yourself in your head or out loud. “I don’t want to go there right now”. “Not now, later”.

Maybe pretend like it’s a kid trying to get your attention and you’re the adult saying this is not the appropriate moment.

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