I have been dealing with an issue my whole life but more seriously in the last 3 or so years. I can receive oral just fine but when it comes to P and V I can keep an erection 70 percent of the time. But once I fail I’m likley to repeat it 50 percent the next time. I cannot understand why my mind suddenly becomes focused on weather I am keeping an erection or not when sex starts. I try so hard to not think about it and be in the moment but it still happens. This happened this weekend twice and it has resulted in depression and feeling this will never end.
*cant
Hey man, I have the same issue, I feel like there are some ways to fix this.
Firstly, keeping as present as possible while doing it helps a lot, there was this thing in one of the activities where to stay present you focus on heat pressure and texture of something you’re touching.
Secondly, I haven’t tried this one yet but I think its still a possible solution. Its to basically stay away from any sexual stimulation for a while to become super sensitive to it. So like not jerking off for a while basically.
Hope this helps, and also if this is an issue for you to the point of depression, think about the things you’re great at. Maybe you aren’t where you want to with this skill, but maybe you excel at another. If you dont have any skills like that the best time to start it is now.