I’m 23 years old, and I’ve been dealing with performance anxiety issues for a while now. About two years ago I was with a new parter, and once we started having sex, there were times where I couldn’t get hard unless she gave me oral. This situationship didn’t last long, but it always stuck with me because I distinctly remember her saying one night, “You have a hard time getting hard, don’t you.” I brushed it off in the moment but that truly crushed me as a man.
Soon after that I was so frustrated with myself I didn’t know what to do so I went to my family doctor. She gave me a sildenafil prescription to give me more confidence but that was something I didn’t want to have to rely on. About a year after that I again became sexually active with a new partner and I found myself using that sildenafil every once in awhile but again I hate to use something made for older men.
Now fast forward to the present day, I am in a relatively new, fully committed relationship with an incredible girl. She is seriously someone I could see myself settling down with and I’m so thankful for her, but as of late I’ve been having issues with my performance in the bedroom and I just want some help. I admit when we first started having sex I use sildenafil which helped a lot but now that I’ve stopped I’ve been really struggling. It helps a lot how understanding she is about it, but as a man I just feel so ashamed because in my head she may think I’m not attracted to her, which is far from the truth. I’m new to this platform and looking to see if it’s worth it because I don’t want to have to use pills so young.