I M24 have had problems getting hard consistently my whole life. I’ve had multiple sexual partners through my life; in short casual flings, short-term relationships, and long-term relationships. Throughout all of these, I’ve had many different partners. Different personalities, different physical traits (large breast, small breast, skinny, thicker, etc.) and every one of them I’ve had trouble getting hard. I would be turned on by them, I would feel attracted to them, but my penis would not show it. It’s as if my penis was sabotaging me or something. The feelings are there, but the penis wouldn’t get hard.
Now, I’m with my current partner F25 and we’ve been going out for just over a year. She’s BEAUTIFUL… I don’t know how else to describe her other than an angel on earth. I’m attracted to her, I want to make love to her, but my penis isn’t getting hard. She’s been patient, helpful, understanding… but it still affects her self-esteem. I hate seeing her so upset with herself. I’ve explained and reassured her countless times that it’s not her fault and then I am turned on, and she even logically understands it, but it still doesn’t change how she feels.
I love her and I want to spend the rest of my life with her, but I want to perform better not only to improve our sex life, but I also want to be able to have kids one day (naturally) and I don’t want this to be a major obstacle when that time comes.
I know this is a lot. I’m going to a therapist about it so I can talk in even more detail but I wanted to get this off my chest somewhere because I feel like I might explode if I don’t say it.
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You’re not alone man. Going through the same thing. What I’ve come to realize is that my body subconsciously looks at sex as something negative because of all the past sex trauma of not getting it up with beautiful women. You need to rewire your brain that sex is something enjoyable and your body will respond. Seeing a therapist is great as they can cater to your specific scenario, but also do some activities on this app and try new exciting things with your partner to let loose. You’ll be having consistent sex in no time
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You are not alone indeed, I see you are working on yourself a lot, you need to trust the process, keep doing the exercises here, meditation, it’s just a matter of time for you, keep it going.
I would suggest to give Rugiet a try. Start with lowest dose and just see if it is helpful. I get the lowest dose and cut them in half and it’s a huge help.
Not alone man! I’ve been experiencing this for years and want to commit to bettering myself any way possible. Feels good to get it off my chest as well, and you’ll get back on track soon
You’re not alone!!
A lot of us are in same boat.
My advice is be super open and honest with her. It’s your issue. Not hers. There may be ways she can help, (or not do any harm!) but it’s YOUR problem. If she chooses or can help- wonderful!!!
I got super honest with my gf. It’s my issue. Mine is PED and that turned me into a solo artist with porn daily… so I got a death grip. I can’t cum anywhere other than my own hand….
I suggested she talk naughty to me and be honest about what you want. She’s come out of her shyness and the other morning, she asked me to finger her while she used a toy on her clit! Not sure what was hotter- the ask or the fun!! Got me going and we had pretty good sex after.
She’s also pretty good at head but her neck is effed… so she goes to her hand. I usually end up taking over to finish myself. She’s started laying her head on my chest watching and encouraging me!!! Sooo hot! The other day she put her mouth on
Me while I came… absolutely 
My point is if you get real with your partner, it could lead to some real good things.
Also- I suggest honing your oral and fingering games… oh and go see a urologist for pills first.
Then maybe try rugiet like someone else mentioned.
Pills were not enough to overcome my PED with a partner. Usually helped during solo- but I’d go soft when I went to go deep…
And- when that happens- my goto is breathing in deep then exhale slowly several times while I rub myself on her. Sometimes cums just from this… it gets me going sometimes.
Good luck man!!
** my scenario is new gf 7 mo ago after 23 yr marriage to frosty the snow wife ended a little over a year ago. I was solo daily for years….
Gave up porn and solo like 90% a few months ago. Seems to help!!