Been seeing this girl for a few weeks, she’s amazing and literally everything I could want.
A lot of teasing recently which has been nice so I knew eventually we would sleep together. Planned on going out for drinks last night so I decided to take 2x 50mg sildenafil a few hours after each other just to make sure things were working.
All going well until we were on the way home then the anxiety thoughts started. Got back and things started getting a bit heated, thoughts still going crazy but tried to focus on her and what I’ve been learning, kind of worked.
She then went to go down on me and that’s when it got bad, thoughts got the better of me and instantly went soft and then there was no recovering then. She was amazing and really didn’t mind at all, very reassuring.
Just extremely annoying, frustrating, upsetting that even when I take tablets to help it still doesn’t work. Reoccurring issue for 5+ years. When there’s no pressure about it I work perfectly, I’m always in my head about stuff in general so I guess this is just nothing new.
Rant over, not feeling amazing today but trying to stay positive
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Sorry that happened man! You got this! Thats awesome she was cool with it. Means you will probably get another chance with her and already knowing she’s ok with it will probably take a lot of pressure off.
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This is where I struggle too my friend. Thankfully my lady is also amazing and has been cool with it. I would love for it to not happen but it just decides to drop all the time. Thankfully a load of teasing and play helps satisfy her still but I’d eventually love to help myself in this situation too
Ah men, sorry to read it - but try to stay positive and enjoy the girls ! I’m sure things will develop with patience !! Penetration as we know is but one of the many options !;).
Have had issues in the past where I couldn’t maintain an erection even after taking pills so u aren’t alone there. Don’t believe that your body is the issue. Performance anxiety can still get the better of you even despite the pills, surprisingly enough. Keep following the steps and work with your inner coach. I recently took a sildenafil dose the exact same as the night I had issues (although I want to get off them) and was able to maintain perfectly. Solid erections are possible for you and getting out of your mind and into your body could be just around the corner