Hi guys.
I’m 35, I’ve a long distance relationship with my girlfriend. Last December I went to see her (after 6 months) and I stay two months with her.
At first I was so anxious that I decided to take some pills to help it. It worked but I didn’t wanna rely on pills. So one day I decided just to go with the flow, I lost my erection at the beginning but went down on her and my dick go back up.
After that encounter something switched. We start to have daily sex and I was super horny every day. Day day we even had back to back sex. Everything was fantastic for around 3 weeks!
But I don’t know what happened and my anxiety came back again one day, and it was worse than before. I took pills and it worked again, but I don’t wanna rely on them again.
Question… has this happened to you before? Where you are doing great but you relapse again? What did you do to fix it back?
Thank you!
Dealing with the same thing…with my current gf was super nervous at first and had some issues. After a while of seeing eachother I all but forgot — but all it took was one time struggling to get it up and I relapsed. Still working through it but I found being transparent about my anxiety and just practicing has been helping. Working on things I can do in the moment as well
Hey man, sorry to hear that. What has been working for you? Are you on the pills or you try without each time?
Did you find what’s your trigger for the ed? Mine is I just get super anxious before getting into.
I’d argue you’re all too hard on yourself. For 3 weeks you’re having sex and wanting to have sex daily, sometimes even twice a day, and then one time you lose it?
I get it’s very gutting and we all have egos, we all want to be able to be rock hard in an instant and be able to last really long and make our partner finish each and every time, but that’s not real life. There will be times where your partner isn’t in the mood, or she is in the mood but can’t get wet, it can just happen.
I’d be very surprised if after 3 weeks of that much sex she’s going to be that hurt that you couldn’t get the guy up one time. Plus, that was literally how your week started, so you know you can get over it easily, it’s not permanent
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You’re totally right. The problem is maybe my mind is thinking now that I’ve a worse problem. But absolutely no, I enjoyed so much those weeks with her. Maybe we went too hard and I reach some ceiling.
I’ll try to think about what you just say. Just try to don’t overthink everything, but we know that so hard when you are in the act.
Thank you!
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