I’ve had this problem for about 6 months now, and it came on suddenly. Even if I can get hard, which is about 50/50 at the minute, it will disappear as soon as I go to put the condom on. I’ve read on here about the spectatoring and the inner critic and all that stuff. But is there anyone with the same problem who has any other advice? I’m getting very anxious at just the thought of sex, and I don’t think my wife really gets it. I have talked to her about it very openly, but I don’t know… I have pills (prescribed), and they work almost instantly, like within 2 minutes, but I really don’t like taking them, both as they wreak havoc with my body temperature and I just don’t want to rely on pills for sex. What can I do?
My advice is to take the pills and have at least six or so successful times in a row . After you’re having consistent sex start weaning yourself off . A quarter of a dose at a time until you get down to nothing. This will help you to build confidence and once you get down to a super small dose you’ll realize that you don’t even need it. It worked for me I would give it a try.
Sounds like the standard mental ED that most people here have. Just do the apps routines and things should improve (at least it did for me). There is a variety of things that you can do. Kegels has helped a lot for erection quality. The most important thing for me was to identify when and what negative emotions that kill your erection arise and to sort of categorize them. It seems stupid, but somehow, just thinking about them outside of a sex situation helped.
Going to guess majority of guys on here are in the same boat. Same thing for me. Pretty much on the other side now. This app is pretty great. Stick with it. The modules are good but I found a lot of comfort and help here in the comments. Just knowing that you are not alone and lots of dudes are pulling for you and your boner lol. Not something you can find in the real world. Pretty much being here you have already started the healing process but recognizing the problem and taking action to fix it. So much of it is in your head and we are our own worst enemies. Good luck man and know you are not alone and we are rooting for you!
I’ve had the same problem with my girlfriend where it just doesn’t seem to get hard or stay hard once every few months. The one thing that has helped me was not watching porn or consuming anything lustful outside of my relationship. It might work for u, but if u already don’t indulge in that stuff the best thing I did was just got into better shape. The more I felt I was attractive, the less self doubt I felt about it and the more I could enjoy sex. This may or may not help but I hope you find your answer brother
Just starting down the same path. After the first non event then anxiety about “what if it happens again” which is probably making it worse
yeah i have the same thing, but I don’t even have the condom to worry about. I can get hard, but as soon as she grabs me to line it up, he goes down. The pressure to perform arrives… I used to get it exactly as you described, that the condom was somehow the reason, but then it made me risk a lot of riskier sex, bareback etc, the risk and excitement kept me hard, but I knocked up a girlfriend (who became a wife, then an ex wife). It was all mental, but I let it get the best of me.
Now it’s a similar challenge though