after a few weeks of trying me and my girlfriend are having a hard time having sex as i’m hard until i have to put it in and then i get nervous and it goes down. i hope mojo helps and any advice or encouragement would help cheers 
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I’ve had the same thing happen to me many times. I feel like I overthink it in that exact moment
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I get into panic mode. Did it again last night. Went to enter and went soft…,
Collected my thoughts. Got out of my head and just had fun. I started rubbing my Softee on her pussy, she loved it. She ended cumming once more. Plus she was encouraging, not demanding or expecting… encouraging me by telling me how good I’m making her feel. She’d already cum a few times, I kissed her feet a bit while they were in my face (foot guy…) and it was enough for me to get in and last a 10-15? Didn’t finish tho.
She woke me with a handy and I got to finish then.
It really helps to communicate with your partner, being transparent and telling her what you need to help with your problem.
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I’m having the same issue, for me it’s when I reach for the condom, it’s like it has become a trigger and then my mind switches to panic and I start overthinking. I’m working on trying to change things up, box breaths can help. Perhaps just remove the expectation of penetration for while, stick with foreplay and just try to have fun.
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Same issue here. I can keep an erect for ages when I’m stimulated, but when I try penetrative sex, I just go limp after sat 3 or 4 minutes. It is definitely getting better, but it’s definitely a psychological issue rather than physical.
I have the same issue, my penis is hard till I start thinking to get it in my wife’s pussy and it starts making me conscious resulting in a soft penis and disappointment. Now I started thinking less of penetrative sex and enjoy more on the journey to make her pussy wet by foreplay, licking , oral sex and that makes both of us relax a lot and helping to go for penetrative sex. Also I try to have breathing exercises and recollect myself to the present moment while having sex and it’s helping. Last 2 times managed to have my penis come back as hard after getting soft and then rest my negative thoughts doing oral sex and after she was cumming.
You’re not alone! The same happens to me, it’s all in my head though. My blood pressure and T levels are all okay I just get in my head and worry about lasting long or cumming early. Happened last night and my amazing fiancée helped get me out of my head and calmed down then we had some amazing sex after.
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How did you manage to come out of your head and keep it erect ?
My advice as this happens to me is stop trying to fix the issue. This may sound counterintuitive but I feel like if the issue is anxiety related it will only create more anxiety to focus on it going in. Instead focus on something else like kissing which I happen to be a big fan of and get back into the body sensations and that may get you back feeling aroused and ready to go again . I literally one night had sex with a girl and she was begging me for it. This actually made me feel a lot of pressure and anxiety. However, I calmed down and right there in a seemingly impossible situation I just focused on other things and when I would feel aroused I’d insert and I’d lose like sensation and go flaccid and go back to kissing or even cuddling and even sleeping for example and then get aroused again and then insert all throughout the night. She loved it! Not necessarily advice for every situation but it just goes to show both the efficacy of those body sensations instead of visuals and how it really isn’t something that’s a big deal for your partner. Just go with the flow and be present less for your penis (spectating) and more for your partner. Good luck!
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tip to help focus on body sensations is if your partner is cool with it maybe have sex with the lights down or off this way it’s all touch. That helps me sometimes.
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I was finally able to get it hard for her but only untill she was about to put it in, then it just went soft. What the fuck should I do? What’s going on? I want her so bad and she wants me just doesn’t seem to work
Same, if you have a supportive partner that helps tons
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