During the buildup and foreplay with my partner I can usually maintain a pretty strong erection but the moment it’s time for me to actually insert I start getting soft, I don’t have any issues with confidence or whatever and I’m only 21 so I have no clue whats going on.
im the same man it’s pretty tricky and idrk what to do
I’m exactly the same…Very confusing 
Im the same mate, you’re not alone. I’ve dealt with it through all my sexual partners. It’s definitely not easy and very frustrating.
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Totally relatable. Doesn’t work 100% of the time but using deep breathing in those moments can help with being more present.
happens to me, too. in my case I am sure it’s pressure to perform well (or fear to not perform). In fact, I can last very long 
. I manage to get it hard again: by staying relaxed, concentrating on my wife to pleasure her and take more time to recover in the mean time. What always helps: asking my wife to stimulate my penis&balls (that always helps). On the other hand, penetration is not always a must, so if she is fine without penetration - who cares? However - I do not understand where the pressure comes from…any hints for how NOT feel under pressure knowing that penetration is going to last only few seconds?
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Yeah, thiscoukd be performance anxi
Performance anxiety or sometimes you need to listen to your feelings, do whatever you feel you would like to do with her, that turns you on. And if it’s hard and she’s wet and ready put in in, since this will.stimulate your dick to stay hard.
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Same as me .sometimes I get really hard but when I try to insert I ejaculate immediately
Same here man, really really frustrating when you feel like you’re not satisfying your partner when they want you to. My partner never seems to really mind but I hate that I can’t penetrate when she’s really in the mood and have to resort to oral stimulation, fingering, etc.
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This was me last night and this morning. You’re not alone.
Same here, brother, I think for me it has to do with getting into my head and spectatoring the second I separate from her to get myself into position to penetrate, because I’ve grown to expect myself to go soft at that moment. So I don’t trust my dick, and the result ensues