I found communication helpful which can be clunky to initiate but worth it. My wife was trying to get me to finish as quickly as possible and make it feel as good as possible because that’s what she thought I wanted. In the meantime I was in my head about trying to last as long as I could, not fully taking in what was going on. After talking it over, we’ve really slowed things down in bed which has helped both of us
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