Hey lads I blow within the first 30second to 1 min of penetrating my wife, haven’t had sex in long time but been improving my hold during solo play, did anyone have this same issue and been able to improve it, to 20 minutes because I want to be able to have sex with her for atleast 10 to 20 mins penetration??
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Does she want 20 minutes? I would set 5-10 minutes as a goal first and go from there.
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My man, I completely understand. I was in the same boat, just absolutely unable to please my wife with intercourse because I’d either blow or have to stop every 10 seconds.
Honestly, this app is a godsend. I’m on day 26 in a row now and coupled with counseling and honest discussion about my feelings with my wife and also myself, last night was the first night I noticed real improvement. We had sex for, like, 15-20 mins, both got off, and there was no awkwardness or shame. Just a genuinely great time.
The physical exercises on this app are fantastic, but for me, the mental arena was where I needed a ton of work done. Meditation, fantasizing, journaling… all of it helped me realize just how uncomfortable I was in my own skin and how much pressure I really put on sex.
If you’re looking for specifics that helped me, beginning with penetration but no movement really helps me to acclimate to the feeling. My wife will let me dictate the pace for the first few minutes (meaning reeeaallly slow) and by that point, I’ve got a pretty good hold on my limits so it’s just kinda go to town.
Looking forward to being able to accelerate the process even more and enjoy sex in new ways! And I know it’s completely within reach for you too. Keep grinding!
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All excellent advise. The inner critic work was really profound and powerful. The kegels and penis root masturbation exercises have been helpful for me too. I like the idea of penetrating with no movement to start and then going really slow. Your comment is brilliant.
As someone who occasionally suffers from PE I find that the reverse kegels and box breathing before penetration seem to work out on my end. That and just taking it slow starting off.
Push comes to shove, desensitizing spray is your friend, combined with a condom of course.