When I’m by myself it’s fine, when my partner is using their hand it’s fine. Oral is much harder, but during penetration I feel like it’s a coin toss. Usually I finish much too quickly (sometimes instantly). This hasn’t been the case my whole life there was actually a period of time where I would last too long or not be able to finish. That was a struggle when it was happening to me but now I yearn for those days. How can you enjoy sex when it only lasts a few seconds? There isn’t enough time to actually enjoy it!
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That was happening to me, I’ve been using the app for a bit more tan 1 month and the results have been very promising. I started by using climax control condoms (even it was with my wife) so you can last longer and you are able to gain condifidence little by little you see that you can do what the app tells you, grounding, breathing, kegels, inverse kegels (that for me has been the thing that helps me the most during sex). It feels numb but you are able to enjoy sex and see how your partner is enjoying it as well. It is like using wheels for your bike. And then little by little stop using the condom and see that your condifidence is coming back and your brain does not really notice the difference.
My first time I saw it was a placebo was that by mistake I put a regular condom on and I fastest the same that with benzocaine condoms and realized that it is fully mental
I am in the same boat! For me it’s definitely stress and anxiety about having sex. For the last 8 months or so it’s been pretty bad, fight or flight kicking in and me cumming within a minute of starting. Mojo helped me realize it’s mental and the exercises are helping me… Now my wife and I need to get through some other things (baby causing lack of sleep, caring for the other kids, work stress, and the damage of an extended period of unsatisfying sex). When I finish too early, I don’t enjoy it, but maybe if you can get her off first that would make it enjoyable (my wife isn’t interested in things that aren’t penetration, unfortunately for me).
I, too, and enjoying the app and feeling like it’s encouraging to see the smallest results.
I was married to a woman that only wanted penetration and was not supportive of my working through PE. So she wouldn’t allow me to make her cum and then shamed me for cumming too fast.
A few years later, after divorce, I dated a woman that didn’t believe in birth control (I was dumb, but was recovering from my own stuff), so I had to last longer. The frequency of sex helped decrease me sensitivity, but I also had much more awareness and control.
Now I’m married to a woman who loves receiving oral and non penetration for the first couple orgasms, but wants penetration to be quick. She’s jokingly mad that I’m doing this because she likes that we both reach orgasm so fast!
But this is for me. My self esteem and my ability to have more control and enjoyment of sex. I need to get out of my head.
I’m only a week in and I’m already seeing the tiniest of improvements.
I hope you find the same!!
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Consider getting a thruster (“pocket pussy”) and using it with a stimulating lube during masturbation. This will train your sensitivity to the intense pleasure of a mouth or vagina.
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